WHO are we to Forgive?
WHAT are we to FORGIVE?
WHY should we FORGIVE?
The answer to ‘WHO’, is that we are STILL ALIVE, and only while we are still ALIVE we CAN FORGIVE. In law there is a Latin Phrase called INTER- VIVOS, which means a TRANSACTION which is possible between only two LIVING BEINGS. But in the case of FORGIVENESS, the FORGIVER has to be LIVING. The FORGIVEN might already be DEAD.
Secondly, ONLY the person concerned CAN FORGIVE. Somebody else cannot FORGIVE on my behalf. Only when others get a RIGHT to FORGIVE that others can FORGIVE on our behalf, even that is not FORGIVENESS as it is based on the fact that the DEAD are HELPLESS in the matter and therefore the SOCIETY may have given the Right to the heir to FORGIVE, but the God given RIGHT to FORGIVE is entirely PERSONAL. Therefore WE , and WE ONLY, as INDIVIDUALS can forgive.
WHAT is to be FORGIVEN? WHATEVER which hurts us, WHATEVER which is perceived by us to be WRONG, WHATEVER is an obsession for us to retaliate, WHATEVER which consumes our TIME (therefore LIFE) in a negative way, has to be FORGIVEN. WHAT and WHY are linked, without knowing WHY, we cannot arrive at WHAT is to be FORGIVEN.
FORGIVENESS is an ACT by the INDIVIDUAL to pardon, ignore and never to recall the slight, hurt, offence or wrong inflicted or perceived to have been inflicted on him/her.
By this act of FORGIVENESS one gains FREEDOM to LIVE without the PAST INTERFERING with our PRESENT LIFE. That is the ‘WHY’ of FORGIVENESS. FORGIVENESS LIBERATES US FROM THE DEAD PAST and ALLOWS US THE FREEDOM TO ACT WITH INNOCENCE. The ENERGIES of LIFE is not strapped and tied into knots. With this as the purpose, WE have to not only FORGIVE OTHERS but also FORGIVE OURSELVES. When we have FORGIVEN OTHERS, we automatically GAIN an INALIENABLE RIGHT to FORGIVE OURSELVES. WHICH is TRUE LIBERATION.
This RIGHT TO FORGIVE is the ONLY RIGHT GIVEN TO MANKIND WITHOUT ANYBODY INTERFERING. It is PERSONAL and needs no recognition from other HUMAN beings. That is why, even a WEAK man, even though incapable of retaliation, by taking this route, would be rising beyond the powerful and the rich. It makes him INDIFFERENT to the powerful man’s jibes, slights, harms and victimization. It makes a DIOGENES out of him, who could tell the globe conquering ALEXANDER the Great, to move away so that Diogenes could get some Sun!
The above is not based on the teachings of the greatest Jew who walked on this earth, but simple logic. But there was a Jew called Chaim Herzog who had something else to say:
I do not bring forgiveness with me, nor forgetfulness. The only ones who can forgive are dead; the living have no right to forget.
Now that I have quoted the POISONOUS Jew, let us get the analytical German in, Frederich Nietzsche:-
If there is something to pardon in everything, there is also something to condemn.
So where do we draw the line? Chaim Herzog had the memories of the German pogrom and could not get that out of his system. Nietzsche was prior to all the Hitlerian pogrom, so we get in La Rochefoucauld the Frenchman who ascribed everything to self interest:
One forgives to the degree that one loves.
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
If you love yourself, FORGIVE – especially when NOT FORGIVING is turning your LIFE into a life of anger, remorse, vengeance and negative!!
VIEWS ARE MANY, BUT THE CHOICE IS OURS. OUR CHOICES COULD LIBERATE OR CONDEMN US!
I remember the narration in the Bible when Jesus made a whip of chords and whipped the back of the traders who were “making His father’s house a den of thieves”, so even Jesus decided not to FORGIVE. If you CAN DO something about it – JUST DO IT!! But do not let your inability to FORGIVE interfere with your LIFE!
GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!